Soul Ties

“So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; because she was taken out of man, she shall be called ‘woman’. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:21-24)

Soul ties are already formed even before the eyes of men. But what really are soul ties? Soul ties are two people bound to complement each other, two people meant for each other. These are two souls tied and knitted together in a covenant relationship. They could also be tied from enslavement or bondage. Soul ties is knitting of two souls that can either bring wonderful blessing or tremendous destruction. It also means to be close to each other or to be attached to one another.

Being in a relationship, one gets tied to the other. The emotional, physical and mental knit between two beings are formed as they precede the relationship. In people who experienced being in a relationship, there a lot of emotions coming out. There are some who has pronounced emotion of love; and some experienced hatred and anger. These knits made the soul tied deeper. In addition, the experiences undergone by soul ties enable them to cleave themselves at each other. Soul ties are bound together by respect, faith, trust and love.

But what if a relationship that is deeply bound and rooted gets broken? What if it brings about disrespect, doubt or hatred?

Reflecting upon the thoughts, soul ties could be very dangerous at times. Dangerous in a way that once you’re in it, it could be very hard to break the tie. Breaking unhealthy soul ties is a very traumatic and painful experience. That is why there is still people who are trap in a knot because they are afraid to cut it. They are afraid of the hurt that they might feel; afraid of being alone. They are scared of going out from the routine that is formed in soul ties.

Forming soul ties are very easy. It is natural for man to attract and bound his self to another. However, nourishing soul ties are the hardest task of life. It is because one could be trap and unaware in soul ties that are unhealthy.

He’s busted!

Your man may give you his biodata and a copy of his transcript but there’s lot of things he wraps and hid from you. Maybe because he’s ashamed of it, he doesn’t wants you to get upset or simply because he’s afraid to get busted. But hey ladies, do you really like someone who fly’s like a gentleman but behind your back he’s out there having fun? He may come out clean, making you his princess but behind those sweet words are bitter lies.

So what are the things we don’t know about liars? Some say their legs tell a lot. If a guy wraps his leg behind a chair, it’s an indication he’s hiding something from you. It could be the TRUTH! Better yet, ask a question from them, like “where have you been last night?” or be straight-forwarded “where you with those chic last night?”, if they give you a long pause or they become very defensive about the topic; Uh-oh! Be vigilant because that’s a big trouble.

Gestures also say something. If both of you are discussing something and he put his hands, or his thumb in particular, inside his pocket; he’s nervous and it’s up to you to figure out why. He may hide his palms while talking to you or he fidgets with an object (for example a cellphone), well that could be a sign that he’s not telling something from you. Does your guy shrug his shoulders most of the time? He says “I’m with my buddies, all guys!” - While shrugging one or both shoulders, watch out. This is one way of canceling out the truth. He maybe uncommitted with his words, so be very keen. This is his subconscious way of avoiding guilt and committing lie. He could be busted through these unconscious moves.

Liars have big buts so watch out these phrases – “I know this is weird but……..” or “You’re not going to believe what my buddy did……” odds are, whatever comes next is not true. Tongues don’t lie, so if he utters something out of the blue, may it be a name, a phrase or an experience - that’s what you call slip of the tongue. And if you see your guy having a shocked face after uttering those words, you could catch him right there. When asking a question, if he briefly licks his lips or flicks out his tongue before answering, he thinks he's about to get away with something.

A liar unconsciously covers his mouth once in a while during a talk. Some guy unconsciously brings his hand to his face – rub a nose or stroke a chin. This is his way of protecting the self from the words coming out from his mouth. Sometimes liar will try hard to prove his telling the truth by staring through your eyes for a long time in an uncomfortable way.

Worst, you could gather real evidences to prove his lying. If you find these with your guy, it’s time for him to be busted!

Is safe sex , safe?

In this 20th century, we are all exposed to the topic of sex. Some call it intercourse, medical term labeled it as coitus; romantic people call it making love, and some even say it’s sacred. Since, young people are becoming sexually active, different sectors opened the idea of sexual education. They taught us the use of protective barriers, the use of pills and the use of the natural birth method. They termed these as “safe sex”. But the question is, is safe sex, really safe? Well, I review each protective measure to have a safe sex to truly understand this query.

The protective barrier, what we call as condoms use by both men and women, are often use by young people who are engaging their selves to sexual activity. For men, this is made up of a rubber or plastic that would catch the sprouting sperm cells. For women, it is put inside the women’s body to cover the cervix so that sperm cells won’t get inside to meet with the egg cell. Yes, they are barrier but reports have also shown users clamor because of the tearing of male condoms or infection acquired by women because they forgot to remove the female condom.

The anti-pregnancy pills are made up of chemicals that cause rise and fall of the female hormones. Many married couple uses this kind of barrier. However, many women claim they experienced the side effects brought about by the pill. This includes, weight gain, bleeding between periods, nausea, breast tenderness, and some even experienced increase blood pressure.

The natural birth control method is both use as birth control and use by couples who are trying to conceive. This includes: rhythm method, ovulation method, standard days method, and the sympto-thermal method. While family planning methods are popular with some people, others find the techniques to be too time consuming. Unfortunately, if you do not practice this type of birth control properly and consistently, there is a good chance you will become pregnant. Another disadvantage of fertility awareness methods is that none of them offer any protection against sexually transmitted diseases. This is why it important to use this form of birth control only when you are in a long term, committed relationship. Otherwise you’ll be acquiring sexually transmitted diseases.

So, again, is safe sex really safe?

It’s up to you to decide the answer.

New Year’s resolution: Pump up my love life

Everyone would like to love and be loved. Spending another year with your partner being happy would make you feel good and healthy. So in this year of the tiger, I would like to give you 5 tips on how to pump up your love life.

1. No to over analyzing.

This means stop thinking that your guy is with another girl because he has not been replying to your texts in three minutes. Remember! Some guys don’t always check on their phones.

2. Expectations should be realistic.

No one is perfect; so stop demanding for perfection. When your partner upsets you because he hasn’t called you every 5 minutes, like duh! He’s a person not a robot. If you want your relationship to be healthier, stop trying to change your mate instead accept them as they are.

3. Communication: An essential tool to every relationship.

Not only letting your mouth works, but most especially letting your ears and heart work. Real talking/communicating entails genuinely listening with your ears and heart. It also involves being taking time to be physically present in order to observe the nonverbal cues. Asking questions and clarifying things is also important to understand each other. And lastly, share information, views and opinions in a non-threatening manner. Surely, the next thing you know, you’re on the bed putting your words into actions.

4. Have a fair fight.

Since we are all different, there could be misunderstandings in some point of our relationship. Some conflict is healthy to spice up your love life and when you’re in that situation, have a fair fight. Take time to hear each others side. Don’t assume, criticize and hold grudges; this could not only destroy your partner but also destroy your outlook in life. Have a win-win situation through negotiating. However, if you think your mate deserves to be dump because he/she is acting stupid (like being insensitive and arrogant at what you’re saying) then go! Bitch him/her out. You don’t deserve this kind of person.

5. The special ingredient: Love yourself.

Spend time to read your favorite book, watch your favorite show and have a drink or coffee with your buddies. If you love yourself, you could also spread your love others.

Make this your guide to your relationship, because there’s no other way to spend another year with your partner than to pump up your love life.